Your family's not in your head.
You've been running every problem, every fix, every outcome in there for years. It worked for a while. It built the business. It held the crew together.
It's not working now.
You'll know if this is you.
You can't trust anyone.
They're lazy. They're slow. They don't think. You're the only one who sees what needs to happen so you do it. Every time. No matter what.
She's never happy.
No matter what you do, it's never enough. You're avoiding her now. You try to talk and it comes back to the thing you got wrong three years ago. You're not a superhero. But there she is.
You can't reach this kid.
You've tried everything. Love. Opportunity. Lectures. Ultimatums. They're still making the same mistakes you did. You know they're a mirror. You just don't know how to break it.
You keep doing it to yourself.
The night that goes too far. The rage. The words you can't take back. The morning-after guilt. The promise to do better. Then the loop again.
Keep doing what you've always done, you'll keep getting what you always got.
You already know that.
I was the bloke who built everything and couldn't see the one thing that was breaking.
Me.
I ran your loop for twenty years. Trades, kitchens, crews, businesses. I was the smartest and hardest worker in the room and nobody could do it like me. I controlled everything because I didn't trust anyone. I carried it alone because I thought that's what a man does.
The relationships paid for it. The kids paid for it. My body paid for it. I nearly lost everything.
What I have now
Not a timeline. Not qualifications. What's actually true today.
My wife feels emotionally safe with me. Not because I stopped making mistakes. Because I stopped running from them.
I'm present. I'm not in my head planning, analysing, fixing. I'm in the room with the people I love.
I'm not the expert anymore. I gave up needing to be the smartest, the one with all the answers, the one who had to control every outcome.
I lead my ship. I don't try to run the whole ship. Everyone brings their own flavour. I'm a leader, not a boss.
The three steps that got me here
One. Surrender.
Stop fighting. Stop being the expert. Stop controlling.
Two. Take the armour off.
Let people in. Stop performing for your value.
Three. Be real and face the fear.
The fear that without the performance, you're not enough. And finding out that people stay anyway.
It's the hardest work I've ever done. Harder than building any business. And more rewarding than anything I ever built.
"Before I started my coaching I felt frustrated due to the internal conflict — who I 'was' as a person vs. who I wanted to 'be'. I learnt that being independent wasn't a good thing. I had to become more vulnerable and interdependent in order to have better relationships. I have better boundaries and healthy practices in place. I thoroughly enjoyed Craig's no-BS approach to coaching."
— YLSM Client
"What I thought was the problem was not the real problem."
— YLSM Client
"I knew all my problems and their solutions but I didn't know how to employ them at the right place and the right time. Which is why I was living my life in 'effect' as he says it, not 'cause'. Talking and getting under the finer details I knew and had the confidence to rely on my strengths to face my weaknesses."
— Patrick
How it works
One.
You take the scorecard. Five minutes. The result shows you where the weight is sitting.
Two.
You grab a time that works for you.
Three.
We have the conversation. One-on-one, Zoom or in person. I'll tell you what I see and whether I can help. If I can't, I'll tell you who can.
The honest bit
If you're looking for a quick fix, a hack, or an app I'm not your guy. If you're ready to do work harder than anything you've built, for a result better than anything you've built, take the scorecard. You'll see where the weight is sitting. Then we'll talk.